Saturday will be two years since my husband died, giving me a good reason to provide you with a grieving update. To summarize, I’m less distressed, but I’m still not through. Being trained in the stages of loss: Denial, Bargaining, Anger, Depression, and Release has helped me track my progress but has not necessarily speeded up recovery. This week, a song by Irving Berlin, … [Read more...]
Death comes to me and you—it’s built into life
April 29th, two days from today, 2022, is the first anniversary of my husband’s (Cal) death. It seems a grieving update is in order. Please remember everyone’s experience and healing after loss is individual. My process is no more correct or messed-up than yours—every path of grief has a story, and this is mine. May it help yours. As minute details of Cal’s cancer and death … [Read more...]
Balance remembering, forgetting, and accepting
It’s been nearly five months since my husband died, and in the last couple of weeks, I can say, “I am doing better.” A bit of darkness has lifted, I focus more successfully, and looking forward is not as foreign. I close these weekly articles with, “Live while you live.” In the last two-plus years, when my husband’s illness began, and his health slowly deteriorated, I have … [Read more...]