On Memorial Day, I listened to a song by Billy Ray Cyrus called Some Gave All. It touched me because I understood—my dad was a WWII Purple Heart, and boys in my high school class went to war in Vietnam. Many came home from the war but died from their action in the war.

I didn’t walk the Bolder Boulder this year, but I missed having my dad’s name on the back of my shirt and sore muscles earned in honor of those who died and fought for my freedom. I missed dragging my poor body into the CU stadium to grab my beer and snack, sit among unknown friends, and enjoy the tear-inducing memorial service.

A huge “Thank You” to those who volunteered time so all could enjoy the flags flying on streets, in cemeteries, and on veteran’s graves. They were stunning and helped us appreciate why with humility. May we never forget the significance of the flag and honor its dignity.

As I listened to the song’s lyrics, I thought they related to everyday life—some give all, and all give some. It made me remember the jobs, organizations, and committees I’ve served. There are always a few who carry the load and many who reap the efforts.

Mental health requires balance, and it is not good to be the one doing it all, nor is it good to contribute little or nothing. By nature or nurture, some of us are inclined to jump in and get it done, and others prefer to show up and enjoy. Both are good, and both are bad.

Those who do it all can delegate more. By doing that, others get a chance to feel part of the success. Those who sit back and watch can step up and contribute. Those putting in the long hours can sit for a while and know the task is in good hands.

As in the military, all those enlisted are equal beginners. As basic training evolves, leaders rise to the top. It takes everyone to protect us. Some die, and some are wounded, but all participate, and we benefit. Most veterans I know, know how to take charge and also how to follow directions. They serve our country and, if lucky, return home and contribute in many ways to the functioning of our communities.

As we move into the heart of summer, remember the phrase, “Some gave all, and all gave some,” and apply the meaning to yourself in whatever way helps you attain and retain balance. Balance is an essential secret to growing mental health, and Memorial Day reminds us of those who have taught us how.

Until the next time: Live while you live.

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