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Love – not for my spouse

December 16, 2015 Leave a Comment

Written By: NA From: TN
Q:

I have feelings for another person – not my spouse. It is wonderful and awful. What do I do? I have kids and a job and a home. What do I do?

Confused

A:

Dear Confused,

My first thought after reading your question was an anonymous quote I heard many years ago:

No one falls in love by

Choice, it is by CHANCE.

No one stays in love by

Chance, it is by WORK

And, no one falls out of love by

chance, it is by CHOICE.

Author Unknown

I hope the wisdom in those few words helps you make your decision using both your head and heart.

Dr. J.

Until the next time Live while you live

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