Mental MattersBy Dr. Jennifer Goble If you say, “Yes” when you want to say “No” you need better boundaries. If you don’t stop or step out of a bad situation, you need better boundaries. If you sense that someone expects you to give them your last dollar or the only ten minutes you have free all day, you need better boundaries. If you are more … [Read more...]
Newspaper Column, "Mental Matters" published each Wednesday in the South Platte Sentinel Health Section
There must be grieving when a loss occurs
Loss is a painful condition that occurs when we lose someone or something. Grief is the emotional response to loss. Loss can be personal, such as losing a job, income, or freedom. Loss may also have to do with significant life events such as death of a loved one, divorce, chronic illness, drug addiction, infertility, drought, or tragedies such as 9-11. No matter the loss, … [Read more...]
Similar to magnets, opposites really do attract
Mental MattersBy Dr. Jennifer Goble One thing I know for sure, from years of counseling, is opposites really do attract. Similar to magnets, like personalities repel, and opposites attach with force. I usually find the phenomenon true, especially with parents and children, friends, love relationships, and co-workers. We are attracted to people who balance us, yet we get hurt … [Read more...]
Working as a solid unit makes counseling more effective
Jennifer GobleMental Health Matters Anyone who has read my book, knows the myriad of concerns motivating a person to pick up the phone and make a counseling appointment. When an individual reaches out for counseling, s/he usually wants or needs change; they are sick and tired of whatever is going on, and they want help to shift or eliminate a challenging or painful … [Read more...]
Consequences create rules and show parental love
Jennifer GobleMental Health Matters Looking back, I think I was a challenging (rebellious) teenager. For example, I would sneak out of my bedroom at night, tap my girlfriend’s window, wait for her to come out so we could meet up with our boyfriends who had cars. Getting back to my room was easy because the basement steps were concrete and didn’t squeak. My dad … [Read more...]
Candidates just ‘want to talk about me’
Mental MattersBy Dr. Jennifer Goble In my old age, I am becoming political. Yep, I watched both grueling and entertaining Republican and Democratic debates. With my background, I paid particular attention to body language and facial expressions. Considering what I believe makes a quality person, I noticed behavior and respect shown toward others. I also tried to determine if … [Read more...]
Life often unexpectedly throws a curve ball
Mental MattersBy Dr. Jennifer Goble Just when we think life is smoothly clicking along, life throws a curve ball and knocks us off center. That happened to me and my family last Thursday when my youngest sister, Patty, was diagnosed with leukemia and immediately hospitalized for chemotherapy. I was living life and planning winter travels when my oldest sister called with the … [Read more...]