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Wondering and worrying

Jennifer Goble

Have you been opening the refrigerator more than usual? Is it difficult to focus on the projects you want to tackle? Do tempers in your home have a short fuse? Are you yearning to eat out and hug friends? Well, if so, you have joined the stressed and anxious club. Even though few people have tested positive in our sweet corner of the state, routines are unfamiliar, and the future feels unstable. Closed schools, businesses, and churches upset our equilibrium and, wondering and worrying tag along.

Thoughts = feelings = behavior. Control your thoughts, and you can change how your body feels and responds. Never underestimate the power of your thoughts. I’m not saying it’s easy—fear, especially if we don’t catch it early, challenges and overpowers our usual dependable logic. But, the good news is we can decide to control our thoughts. It is no different than deciding to lose weight or clean the garage. Whatever thoughts we plant and fertilize lead us to the up or down side of mental wellness.

So it is with anxiety when triggered by fear. We can say, “Our world is never going to recover from this thing. It’s not possible.” With that, fear clouds our reasoning, and sure enough, we’re stressed and anxious. You could control your thoughts, and speak truthfully, such as, “his is temporary. Even if we test positive for coronavirus, the recovery rate appears to be high, and symptoms, although not fun, are doable. Our summer will not mirror one year ago, but this shutdown could help us reset priorities.” With that, you might still snack your way through each day, but you will not curl up in a ball and feel paralyzed by fear. Positive and truthful self-talk normalizes your anxiety and adds benefit to every day. Reason and balance drown fear.

I’m not minimizing the reality of this situation; I am suggesting we take responsibility by conscious, truthful, and positive thought. Don’t make it worse by overreacting or joining the “Ain’t It Awful Club.” Nobody needs embellished anxiety. STOP posting or reading political downers on social media. Don’t make it worse for yourself or others.

Watch less news. We already know to stay home, not touch our faces, and use lots of soap. One hour of catching up on the numbers is probably enough. Also, try dressing every day as if you had places to go and people to see. As simple as that sounds, it helps.

In the thick of COVID-19, we CAN think with logic, react with reason, and behave with kindness. Wondering and worrying can lose power, making room for hopefulness.

Until the next time: Live while you live.

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Comments

  1. Geri says

    April 8, 2020 at 8:50 pm

    Excellent advise for us all. See now, you just made me feel better! Thanks.

    • Jennifer Goble says

      April 9, 2020 at 12:42 am

      Oh good, Geri. Now the pressure is on for next weeks to be uplifting too:) Sometimes I’m tempted to write about the difficulties of the matter. You motivate me to keep on keeping on. Thanks!

  2. Wendi says

    April 8, 2020 at 10:37 pm

    Liked, “Reason and balance drown fear,” and the way you tied everything together so well with your last paragraph. Thanks!!

    • Jennifer Goble says

      April 9, 2020 at 12:39 am

      Thanks, Wendi. I hope you are keeping your reasoning strong and healthy:) I know you are.

  3. Faye Ellen Winger says

    April 9, 2020 at 1:37 am

    Such good common sense, dear Jennifer!!! Good words… THank You, and God Bless You!!!

    • Jennifer Goble says

      April 18, 2020 at 4:55 pm

      Thank you, Faye Ellen. I guess common sense is helpful during all of this. God Bless YOU too:))

  4. Marva says

    April 14, 2020 at 11:25 pm

    Great advice! Thanks for writing it down!!!!

    • Jennifer Goble says

      April 18, 2020 at 4:43 pm

      Marva, you are sweet to read my posts. You probably get tired of my opinions. But, I hope not:))

      • Marva says

        April 21, 2020 at 2:12 am

        I really enjoy them .,, don’t know how you do it❣️ Keep it up 😊

        • Jennifer Goble says

          April 23, 2020 at 1:38 am

          Tee Hee, Marva, I sometimes wonder too how I come up with a topic for the week. I feel like I’m stuck in the Coronavirus. It sort of takes over everything I think about:) I’m glad you enjoy whatever I come up with:))

  5. Jan B says

    April 19, 2020 at 6:35 pm

    Marva’s friend calls this “master your mind, don’t let your mind master you”. Marva gave me a hug Fri first in a long time. How nice! Your words are so true.

    • Jennifer Goble says

      April 20, 2020 at 5:11 am

      Thank you, Jan, I’m glad you liked my message. I would love to have a hug from Marva too. You are special:))

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