Q:
My husband never gets me a Christmas gift, and it really hurts. I have asked him to buy me just a card, but he doesn’t. He says it is stupid to buy gifts just because it’s Christmas. He says he is my gift. I try not to let it bother me, but it does. I always buy him a present, usually three or four. What would you do?
A:
Dear Joni,
I’m not sure why some men don’t get the “Gift Gene,” but truth is, many don’t. I suggest three things:
- Do not expect a gift from him; keep your expectation lined-up with your reality.
- Try to think of his good qualities when you look at him, and not the fact that he, again, will not get you a gift.
- Buy yourself exactly what you want, wrap it beautifully, place it under the tree. Give him a big hug and kiss when you open it, and thank him profusely.
Merry Christmas!
Dr. J.
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